5 Ways to Tackle Your Invasive Partner, Shilpa Guhu, TNN

One of the most essential components of a healthy relationship is trust. Lack of trust makes one an intruder in his or her partner’s life.

And needless to say, the person ends up eating into the other’s space, which leads to quarrels as the relationship becomes suffocating. Instead of being fond of it, the people in it begin to think of ways to end it. If you are putting up with such a partner, it’s high time that you paid some attention to this  problem. Instead of  running away, sit back, think over it and take the following steps.

Talk to your partner: Find a suitable time. Do not start explaining things to him or her in  the middle of a fight. It will make matters worse and the person will never see the point. Talk to your  partner whenever you two are in a good mood. Take him or her out — for a walk, preferably and talk about things that have been hurting you. Explain it to them that you require space to have a healthy co-existence in the relationship. Do not be rude. Keep  calm and be composed.

Stop proving things: Most importantly, do not let your partner check your phone all the time. If you let him or her do this, the person will never learn to trust you. If your partner doesn’t trust you a bit and wants to check your phone after every fight that you have, realize that the person has severe trust issues. If you want to make sure that your partner gives up this habit permanently then, tell him or her that he or she has to stop feeling insecure. Know that neglecting them and not loving them will only make matters worse.

Give up the mentality to avenge: You cannot sit and plan revenge every time your partner is insecure about you or suspects you. It is sheer waste of time. Seize the conversation by telling them that they matter to you. Stop if the are putting up stupid arguments in return. Do not answer. Avoid any conversation for some time.

Confrontation is necessary: Do not avoid a confrontation thinking that it might lead to an embarrassment for your partner. Sweeping matters under the carpet does not help. Some people even follow their partners to feed their suspicious minds. If you find your partner doing that, confront him or her.

Do not get frustrated: Often people get so frustrated that they tend to prove their partner’s suspicion true by doing what they have been accused of. Do not give up. And most importantly, do not stoop and do this. Be patient and prove that you have been accused for all the wrong reasons. The best method to fight back is to not get frustrated and have the strength to take a stand for yourself.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/5-ways-to-tackle-your-invasive-partner/articleshow/25508555.cms

 

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